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About Lisa Lieberman-Wang

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Lisa Lieberman-Wang is a Business & Life Strategist. #1 Bestselling Author: FINE to FAB, Co-Creator of Neurological Associative Programming (NAP), Licensed Master NLP Practitioner & Trainer, Speaker and Entrepreneur. Seen by millions on all the major television networks CBS, ABC, NBC, FOX, The CW etc. Lisa is passionate about helping empower women and men personally & professionally to take back control of your life using a proven system for outstanding results. Contact: info@LisaLiebermanWang.com Phone: 1-877-250-7275

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I am DOING Confused

I am DOING Confused

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That’s right I am DOING Confused… I am not confused, but doing it. I have spent the better part of 30 years researching why people do what they do. For that matter, why I do what I do, to only learn it is to fill a need. It is really that easy. We all DO things to fill a need and to return to the familiar.  None of us are alone in this since everyone does it. Some do it to the point of destruction and others do it the point of fulfillment. Which are you?

I have had the pleasure of working with unbelievable women over the past few years that are successful in some areas but not with themselves. I was one of those women. On the outside you saw a very successful, self assured individual and on the inside I felt like a fraud. I never felt good enough, smart enough, pretty enough or successful enough.  Never enough!!! So I would return to the familiar and DO things to feel bad for myself. It didn’t matter how great things were going I found a way to sabotage it and turn my attention to what was wrong versus what was right. Did you know their is an army of us out there?  The sad part is we are not just an army in volume but in sheer bruit force that repeatedly hurt ourselves before anyone else ever has a chance. It has to STOP!!! I need YOUR HELP! It starts you YOU!

The next time you hear a friend say something negative about themselves, stop them! That person may be you. Ask “What’s great about you?” You may need to help them with the answer since this isn’t part of their normal behavior. They can give you a list of what’s wrong, but very few can give you a list of what’s right. You may also ask “What are you grateful for?” For some this too may be difficult but you can help them with the obvious, they have two hands, two feet can walk and talk. There are millions that can’t.

Let’s create a RAVING FAN club for our FAB (Fabulous, Awesome, Beautiful) Women out there and stop the hatred that is prevalent mostly within ourselves. Breakthrough whatever is weighing you down because it is causing stress, illness, cancer and we can change it all one person at a time.

Join the movement to help empower women reclaim their peace and power now. You are already F.A.B.! Tell yourself and tell a friend!

Love,

Lisa Lieberman-Wang
America’s FAB Coach

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What’s Right or Wrong?

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I grew up in a home of expressions like “do as I say, not as I do”, “children are to be seen and not heard” and “because I said so.” Did you? Through much research it appears that this was a model that many of us were raised on. Our parents did it, theirs did it and now so do we. We are all products of our environment and were taught by our guardians before us. We learn from them and they become the model of the norm.

It reminds me of the story of the young girl that was watching her mother cut the ham and she asks, “mommy, why are you cutting the ham?” The mothers looks at her and says, “because grandma used to cut the ham”. She then asks, “why did grandma cut the ham, mommy?” She said “I don’t know dear, let me call grandma.” “Mom, why did you cut ham?” She answers, “I never had a pot big enough to fit it in.”

My mother did, her mother did it and so I’ll do it too. Today we have bigger ovens and bigger pots so what held weight back then may not make any sense today. It is no longer good enough to continue with rituals of those before us if they no longer serve you.

I have experienced a great deal in my lifetime. Being told to follow rules that never made sense to me. As a young child I was taught through my religion that we were not allowed to drive on Saturday. When I asked why, I was told we were supposed to rest our horses. Now, know that I did not grow up riding a horse and buggy.  My parents told me the car had “horse power” therefore we could not drive it. Now I understand being kind to humanity, but I didn’t think a car needed rest. Back then this insanity of tradition infuriated me. Today I can get a chuckle out of it because I choose to question what is right and wrong for me. You can see I can be somewhat of a rebel, since you may now have figured out what faith I was raised in and I was just talking about the ham. 🙂

I get to make decisions of what it right or wrong based on what I know today to be true. Just because others did it before me doesn’t mean I need to do it too. Tomorrow I give myself the right to change my min, but today I make my own rules. What about you?

3 Step to Be Your Best YOU Now!

3 Step to Be Your Best YOU Now!

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There is hope for anyone wanting to free themselves from the struggles of fitting in and not feeling good enough. Learning to love yourself for who you are and not for whom you think you should be. Willing to leave the past behind you and not beating yourself up over things that were out of your control at the time. Learning to be grateful and appreciate all that you have now versus waiting to have the perfect life, so you can be happy. Stop comparing yourself to others to fit a mold that does not exist and start to be the Best “You”, You Can Be!

So where do you start?

1. Have a Positive Self Image
• It is good to be helpful, but do not feel the need to do all things for other people. Take care of YOU first!
• Treat yourself kindly by not expecting others to make you feel good about yourself. You are already great!
 • Forgive and Forget and try not to hang on painful memories from the past. It does not serve you to open wounds.
• Avoid focusing on what you cannot do, instead focus on what you can do and the things you can accomplish without expecting the need of approval and recognition from others.  Accept yourself as you are right now.
• Accept imperfections by focusing on what you have gained from the process of doing the best you can instead of focusing on what wasn’t done. It is okay to allow yourself to make mistakes and forgive yourself.
• You will never live and have successes if you have never failed. Go out and make mistakes it means you are living a full life.
 
2. Obtain a Positive Body Image
• Learn to love what you see in the mirror. Start my saying nice things to yourself. It can start with “you have nice eyes”.
• BE a friend to your body, not its enemy. Tell it nice things daily. Thank if for taking care of you.
• Everyday tell yourself what you are grateful for, some days it may be just two hands, two feet etc.
• We all wish to look our best; however, a healthy body is not continuously linked to appearance.
• Healthy lifestyle decisions can also improve your body image.
• Change your body image by changing your approach and your manner on how you think about your body.
• Exercise regularly to boost self-esteem, confidence and energy level. Don’t exercise to fight your body but do it to make your body healthy and strong.
• Getting plenty of rest, it is vital to manage stress and anxiety.
• Make a list of all the things your body lets you do and read it often.
• Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired learn to H.A.L.T. Eat when hungry and take a rest when you’re tired.
 
3. “Take Care of Your Mothers Daughter”
This is best advice I can give you and the wisest woman I have ever met, my grandma, gave it to me. As she watched me kill myself and feel responsible for everything and everyone in my life, she would plead with me and say, “Baby, take care of your mothers’ daughter”.  We are so good at taking care of everyone else, isn’t it time you take care of the most important person in the world, “your mothers daughter!” Wouldn’t you want the best for her? If you said yes, then you have to treat her that way.

It is not in our nature to hurt anyone, yet we make it ok to hurt ourselves. This needs to stop. You are worth so much. You make a difference just being here. You have a purpose, to serve yourself first and the people you touch in your life. 
Start with Positive Self Talk…Your Body Hears Everything You Say So Be Nice To It. You are your body and you have been hearing a lot of abuse over the years!It is time to stop and start taking care of it with tender loving care. Feed it love and acceptance, kindness and praise. Encourage it and nurture it to be your best friend.
Change the stories you tell yourself.  Most of them are not true. Change the tape, put in a new DVD and reprogram your mind for a happy and healthy future. Feed your mind with good thoughts and positive affirmations, feed your body with healthy food choices, not with comfort foods or convenience, you are special, treat yourself.  Take care of your mind, body, and soul.
Do something physical as create some endorphins with movement, they produce not only a reduction in pain sensation but also increased feelings of euphoria, a reduction in appetite, and release of sex hormones.  So get out and do things, take a walk with a family member, friend, or dog, exercise in moderation, dance, play outside with a child, join a club, yoga, pilates, or just get a massage.

 

Feeling Guilt Leads to Compulsive Overeating & Obesity

Feeling Guilt Leads to Compulsive Overeating & Obesity

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Have you ever found yourself over a bowl of ice cream and wondered how you got there? Have you opened every cabinet in the pantry including the refrigerator and stood there looking for something and not knowing exactly what it is you’re looking for? Did you ever wonder what brought you there?  There are numerous answers to this age old predicament. What we do and how we eat depends on various behaviors and emotional states that we are in at the time. It can lead to emotional eating, compulsive overeating, binging, purging, gorging and obesity. If you are engaged in some sort of irregular eating that goes outside your normal balanced meals, then consequences can be significant. It can lead to serious mental and psychological health problems as well as physical. With all the different behavioral factors that affect one’s emotions, eating is always affected in some ways. Maladaptive eating behavior is an effect of the variations of emotions an individual may have, it’s called emotional eating.  Feelings of guilt, shame or blame leads to compulsive overeating and obesity. It is quite alarming that subtly, emotions are the cause of our eating behavior but, there’s a way to treat it.

 

Conviction Over Guilt

Research found that guilt feelings have the highest affect in maladaptive eating behavior. Compulsive overeating is a result of emotional eating. I understand the circumstance that eating is an instrument for some to endure emotional instability but it isn’t the answer. Eat, and eat, and eat again to at least ease the worry that our rickety emotion provides. What makes people worry even more is that ‘guilt feeling’ that follows. Let me remind you that no matter how much you eat or consume guilt will never be cured, only time heals. It is a matter of how you cure your own perception of the things that happened along your day. Your conviction can diminish the guilt and gradually replenish it with an adaptive eating habit. You can either control your emotions or let them control you. Remember even after a good binge, your problems did not go away. You just added to them with feeling bad about yourself, gaining weight, prone to obesity, becoming susceptible to diseases like heart disease, strokes, high cholesterol, cancer, diabetes, or worse.  You need to fill your needs without overeating.

Compulsive Overeating leads to Obesity

Basically, weight is the basis of obesity. Over 30% of the population is considered obese; at least 30lbs overweight and 70% are overweight. Obesity happens because of poor choices and overeating in some fashion. No one ever became obese from only eating vegetable all their lives. Compulsive overeating may come from emotional eating. That is how it is. A chain that never ends until you take steps to stop it. Obesity is a direct health dilemma that is harmful and will shorten your life span. Most people are complacent, even though things are harmful. You need not to regret what you have already done. Now is the time to take action and make a decision to change. Put an end to any option and get help for obesity move forward and begin to show some respect and love for yourself.

Reasons to Lose Weight

You may have more reasons not to, but here are the valid reasons that contradict losing weight now. It’s not too late to lose weight and be healthy.

  • If you are 22lbs overweight, you have 3 years off your life. Smoking? Then, you’re losing more 14 years.
  • Risk of early death is 115% greater for obese women and 81% for men.
  • The average heart rate for men is 70 and 75 for women. If you are 33lbs overweight, approximately 17 more heartbeats are added each minute your heart beats, and over a year, that’s a howling 8.3 million beats a year. Imagine that?
  • The chances of stroke, cancer, heart attack, and other diseases increase to those who are overweight.

If you think those reasons are enough to make a decision to change and lose weight, start it now. You may have another long list of good reasons to lose weight knowing the effects that it brought to you. If you are that person, almost near to obesity, start cracking it down. Choose to live a healthy and happy life now.

Need additional help, contact us at info@finetofab.com and speak to one of our consultants.

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50 is the New Body Hate Prime Causing Depression

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Everybody wants to stay young. That is the irony of life. Along with change, age is also a constant thing; our age escalates every second of each minute. As I say “we”, it means you are not alone being afraid of getting older but I believe it is better than the alternative. Know that getting older provides various factors that affect our emotional, mental and physical health and well-being. Women, 50 is the new body hate prime causing depression. You are just one of millions fed by depression, weight, and self-esteem issues. Research found that the majority of women between middle-age or older are unfortunately undergoing different stress due to the pressure that this generation provides.

 

Body Weight, Body Shape, and Age

These are the three factors that cause depression to many middle-aged women and if you are a certified member of this age bracket, then, you shall save yourself from getting involved with these anxieties. Know that body weight, body shape and age do not measure the totality of your humanity. However, these are the keywords that complete the factors to lower your self-esteem which you shall not let consume you. Seeing yourself not exactly as you want to be is a matter of self-exploiting. Without any further wordings, this is the start point of depression.

The Ubiquitous: Media

Inevitable as emotions, media are universal. Seeing the most desirous models become the benchmark of today’s beauty makes your perceptions drive the reality. Media are persuasive and pervasive. In one stop you can eliminate your anticipations that regard your expectations. Undeservedly, women with the age of 50 or plus are prevalent of having body dissatisfaction; thus lowers your self-esteem and self-image.

Get Yourself Help

With the advent of all distracting thoughts in your mind, it is better to fight and start a new optimistic view of self. The basic derivation of low self-esteem and self-image, and depression is disordered eating that have resulted in various consequences. To resolve this issue:

• Help from peers is more likely to provide you satisfactory result. Involve yourself in group activities and get a cup of chat with them.
• Treatments for disordered eating can also be accomplished through engaging in some sorts of physical activities. Keep a healthy mind to possess a healthy body, and
• Helping yourself by gaining more confidence is one of the best treatment for a better you. Accept that life is about aging, and nothing more than that.
• See yourself as the Fabulous, Awesome, Beautiful women that you are.

Getting older is uncontrollable, but when you learn to accept and love yourself as your reality it becomes real easy.

Did you know I had an Affair

Did you know I had an Affair?

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That’s right I did… Let me tell you about my affair.
I’ll start by telling you it was a big secret in the beginning.
I never let anyone know about it. I used to wait until I was alone and I would call my love who was always there for me guaranteed, no questions, arguments or judgment, just loved me the way I was.
I remember days that I felt lonely and I’d turn to my love and felt fulfilled.
Days that I didn’t feel too good about myself, my love would make me feel better.
Even the fat does were good days. As a matter of fact, my love helped me create more fat days and loved me anyway.
I tried many times to break up, but every time I did, my friends would encourage me to get back together.
My love would show up everywhere I went and try to get back in my life.
I told my love it was over, it wasn’t a healthy relationship and for awhile I was left alone,
but it was in those times of uncertainty, when I was depressed, afraid, or angry that I wanted my love the most.
I felt so secure and safe but knew it wasn’t a good relationship. It was so one sided.
It was unbelievable when I think what my love took from me and gave me nothing in return.
Made me feel I wasn’t enough and finally took everything from me.
I lost my relationships with my family, friends, money and my business started to suffer.
More importantly my love took my self-worth from me and made me feel so low, that I hated myself for it.
You wonder why I would stay in such a destructive relationship.
Well, I’ll tell you, I was hurting and in pain and didn’t know anyone else could help.
I didn’t know I could help.
I didn’t want to be alone and in reality I was the loneliest I have ever been.
Finally, I broke up with my love and found a new one.
I am no longer having an affair with my food.

– Lisa Lieberman-Wang
www.FINEtoFAB.com

Use Food for Nourishment Not Love

Use Food for Nourishment Not Love

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People who are suffering from heart aches brought on by feeling unloved or not good enough or unhappy, tend to use food and eat an enormous amount as this becomes their only way to find comfort and support. At those moments they are using food to fill the void of love they feel in their heart. This kind of condition is called emotional eating. While emotional eating can help ease the emotional pain that the person feels, this can also lead to more problems like weight gain and habitual or compulsive overeating.

Emotional eating is usually an ongoing and prolonged process. You can’t be satisfied with the food that you eat and tend to continue eating. The urge to eat continuously is driven by the emotional feeling of heart ache and sadness or emptiness and the need to fill the hole in your heart. The comfort and satisfaction from emotional eating can provide with you benefits, but it has unforeseen negative effects in your life. It is necessary to hold hunger every time you feel emotionally depressed, but there are things that you can do to avoid compulsive overeating. You can still find emotional escape from other things and not just from food.

You tend to eat because of love. The feeling of being alone triggers your desire to eat. If this emotional feeling triggers your urge to eat, distract yourself in a positive and healthy way rather than with food. You can create a list of things that you can do to suppress emotional eating. Watch a movie, call a friend, perform heavy workouts, listen to music, or go outside. Changing your environment will allow you to suppress the urge of eating from your emotions.

You can also avoid emotional eating and gaining a tremendous amount of weight just by allowing yourself to feel the emotions. This can sound a bit complicated as you are trying to forget the emotional distress. Emotions are only temporary, and it can be used as the triggering factor to gauge what is inside you that needs attention.  If you allow yourself just to feel the pain, it will pass. I always does, you just need to be patient and sit with it or do something to distract yourself until it does.

The sense of sadness, depressions, and self pity will only pass when you allow them to subside from the bottom of your heart. These emotional feelings will eventually come and go, and you will instant relief when this happened.

Food must only be used for nourishment and not for love or any kind of bad emotions. You must only eat when you’re hungry, or your body does require energy. Stay proactive and develop effective strategies to conquer emotional eating. Make a list of activities to do to overcome your urge to eating when your emotions strike you. Your compulsion for food will only become stronger when you become emotionally vulnerable.

If such feeling strikes you, make use of running or try proactive sports that will allow you to sweat and relax your mind. You see, the feeling of being heartbroken is only temporary. Make your own self busy and do not stay inside the house as this will make you eat more and more often. If you are busy, you will not remember that emotion, and you will forget it eventually.

Stop Beating Yourself Up & Love Yourself Now

Stop Beating Yourself Up & Love Yourself Now

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Wow that darned inner voice can be brutal and hard to ignore and even live with. Some of us are lucky enough to go through life, filled with supportive thoughts, but more often than not that voice is demeaning and cruel. Our self depreciated words often tells us how weak we are, how ashamed we should be, and we even curse ourselves for being fat and unattractive; it even hurts to read these thoughts here doesn’t it? Then don’t do it anymore! I mean, would you ever talk to your loved ones like you talk to yourself sometimes? I think not and if anyone deserves love and respect it’s you. Stop beating yourself up and love yourself now. Learn to appreciate yourself for all the wonderful things that you are. Love your body for getting you through life the way it has, love your powerful heart for allowing happiness in and beating ceaselessly to get you where you are today.

Negative self talk will often lead to obsessive thoughts like “no one loves me” or “I am weak” and “I can’t do this!” How useful do you think statements like these will be to actually losing weight, getting that job you want so badly, or even being a role model for your children? Instead they can lead you down the road to being a door mat for those around you to take advantage of, never having the courage to say “No!” to unreasonable requests, never trying to go for that big break because you don’t believe you’ll be able to achieve it; this is no way to go through life.

The world around you is full of wonderful possibilities but it’s up to you to avoid sitting on the sidelines while everyone around you achieves their dreams. Make a list of fun things to do, just for yourself, and make time to do them. Perhaps start by joining a fun exercise group, perhaps a dance class or Yoga which is wonderful way to relax and still get in a good workout. If you’re beating yourself up because you can’t seem to lose weight, give yourself a break or you’ll never see the numbers on the scale go down. Stop making dieting a chore; make it fun. Try a few tasty new healthy recipes, enjoy a bit of chocolate when you feel like it, and when you hear yourself saying negative things to yourself; stop that badgering voice! If you happen to fall off your diet, stop beating yourself up; instead pat yourself on the back for recognizing it and start fresh. Not loving yourself can lead to emotional eating and worse and you deserve so much more.

Next, don’t worry so much! It’s easy to get caught up in worry mode. It is estimated that many of us think up to 60,000 thoughts per day and typically over 1/3 of these are negative, and it’s in how we handle these naysayer thoughts that defines how we live. Living in fear and self persecution can hold you back from the happiness and successes you deserve. If for any reason you find that you can’t stop beating yourself up reach out for the help of a professional; sometimes it takes two to quiet those unkind voices and unhappy thoughts.

If you want to learn how to maintain a proper diet, how to stay enthusiastic about life, and most important of all, how to stop beating yourself up and love yourself now find out more about The Fine to Fab Transformational Program that addresses your well-being and not just your health.

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Eating Out of a Box is a Good Way to Put Yourself In One

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Boy oh boy dieting can be challenging these days, not to mention the fact that you need to wean yourself away all the comfort foods and easy meal options like eating out of a box most of us fall prey to. So what do we do? We opt for things like 1/2 the fat ice cream without noticing that it contains twice the sugar, or tell ourselves that white bread is ok because sometimes it’s even lower in calories then whole wheat choices. Or how about those tiny frozen entrees that brag that they only contain 300 calories? Who hasn’t gone this route before? I know I have in the past! They’re usually loaded with sodium, carbs and a long list of bad for you ingredients. Basically, if you can’t pronounce the words on the nutritional label, they probably shouldn’t be going into your body.

In order to make smart food choices, whether it’s to lose weight or simply for the health benefits, you need to learn about good nutrition including good carbs versus bad carbs, the connection between sugar, insulin and obesity, and how way to many of us fill up on empty, artery clogging food choices often presented to us as healthier pre-packaged choices (yeah right!).

The first thing to do before you buy anything food related is read the nutritional information and ingredients. If sugar is listed as one of the top 5 ingredients move on. Sugar can lead to heart problems, affect blood sugar levels and is one of the biggest causes of obesity in our country today. You’ll also want to avoid bad carbohydrates like white flour, the main ingredient in so call “wonder” bread and high carb pasta. An easy rule of thumb when it comes to grains is going brown; whole wheat bread, pasta and opt for brown rice instead of white, all in limited amounts. As you read the nutrition labels on the food you buy look for vitamins, proteins and healthy nutrients that your body relies on for optimal health and start finding a balance so that you’ll feel healthy and have plenty of energy throughout the day. Making smart food choices will also boost your immune system and can help you ward off all sorts if illnesses and even cancer.

Both fresh baked goods found in most grocery stores and pre-package sweet treats are definitely something to be wary of. They have become known as “white goods” in the world of health experts and they are characterized by their massive amounts of sugar and carbohydrates. These heavy, fill you up, for the most part comfort foods that often lead to emotional eating, can give you quick bursts of energy, but these are typically followed by plummeting to exhaustion, and offer little to no nutritional value or long term health benefits.

It’s one thing to decide to lose weight, rock some skinny jeans or feel as energetic as you did 30 pounds lighter; it’s quite another to attempt to do it by choosing what you’re going to eat in an attempt to lose the weight without reading the nutritional information. In addition, instead of eating “out of the box” and filling up on high carb, fatty, sugar loaded foods and bad for you artificial ingredients and preservatives, bring out your inner chef and whip up a few meals for yourself using fresh vegetables, lean meats and a bit of lightly seasoned beans; your body will love you for it!

Living Life in Peace without Emotional Pain

Living Life in Peace without Emotional Pain

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Wow – Doesn’t that sound wonderful? Living Life in Peace without Emotional Pain.  Just reading the words out loud lifts your spirits doesn’t it? You’re probably telling yourself “easier said than done” but it really is possible to live your life without emotional pain and in complete peace; first you need to break away for your inner torment, face your demons, and live the life you deserve.

Moving on in your life requires getting over whatever emotional stage you are currently stuck in which can be a piece of cake for some people who have the ability to let go, move on and overcome their own personal challenges. The fact is that for most of us who are living (or have lived) with emotional pain and low self esteem it can be extremely difficult to overcome the emotional ache that can feel almost physically devastating.

There isn’t a person on the planet that hasn’t had some distressing event in their lives that caused emotional pain. Whether it’s the end of an important relationship, a death of a loved one, emotional or physical abuse during childhood or as adults, if we don’t learn how to handle the pain it can have long term destructive effects on our lives. They are situations we can both learn from and use as tools in creating a life filled with positive experiences, or as in many cases are relived over and over again, crippling us emotionally.

If you’ve been letting life’s challenges darken your existence, it’s crucial that you find a way to confront them head on because if you don’t eliminate that emotional pain, and find peace in your life, it’ll take a toll on your mental, physical and emotional health, and take the joy out of everything you do.

Living life with emotional pain can even end up making it difficult to maintain a routine. This means going to work in the morning will be more difficult since you’ll be less energetic, less enthusiastic and frequently fatigued. You’ll be hard pressed to keep up with a healthy diet and it can lead to emotional eating or worse. The good news is that you can interrupt the soul sapping pattern you’ve been living with and live in complete peace. For example if your psychological pain is due to the end of a relationship, change thoughts like “what did I do wrong?” to “His loss” or “the next relationship will be better”. If it was years of emotional or physical abuse you may need to reach out and contact us for the professional help that can help you tackle the problem, move past it and live an extraordinary life.

By reaching out for the right kind of services, you’ll be able to live a sustainable and healthy lifestyle while also maintaining your mental and emotional health. Take the first steps in the process and start living a joy filled, happy life. You don’t have to suffer from emotional pain forever and peace can be yours if you put yourself in experienced, caring hands.

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