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Why 92% of New Year’s Resolutions Fail

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Happy New Year 2015! Last night many people declared a New Year’s Resolution to lose weight, exercise, quit smoking, build their business or something they have been putting off. Statistics show despite all the good intentions, only a tiny fraction of us keep our resolutions; University of Scranton research suggests that just 8% of people achieve their New Year’s goals leaving 92% to fail.

I haven’t made a New Year’s Resolution for at least 10 years and I will tell you why. I didn’t want to be a statistic. Most people make lofty resolutions that are too big to tackle or very abstract and they set out with good intentions only to throw in the towel for some within a week, a few make it a month or two.  Instead I make a daily intention to be all I can be. To love and respect my body and take care of myself. To do whatever it takes to be successful and happy. Every day is a choice and I choose me.

Choose YOU this year! Choose to love yourself more than the food. Take care for your body more than the coach you watch TV on. To use your muscles so they won’t have atrophy and be healthy for years to come. To say nice things to yourself daily when you look in the mirror. To smile every chance you can because you have so much to be grateful for. You are here!!!

As the creator of the cutting edge neuroscience Neuro-Associative Programming (NAP), I know that when you use these proven techniques that you are able to reprogram yourself on a daily basis without setting yourself up for failure. Don’t wait for the end of the year to decide to live your best life, do it daily!

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How We Program Ourselves for Success or Failure

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Have you ever wondered what the difference between success and failure is? While there are a lot of factors involved in success, research shows that the biggest driver of your success or failure in a venture is you.

Our subconscious is surprisingly powerful. If we believe something strongly enough, our brains will do whatever is possible to make it true. This is why placebo sugar pills can get rid of headaches, and we can lose five pounds on a fake fad diet. When we believe something in our subconscious, we will unconsciously do everything possible to not be proven wrong. This is true in any undertaking we start, as well. When we believe that we will succeed, we are setting ourselves up to have a good chance of success; however, when we are not sure deep down inside ourselves if we can succeed, we are doomed to failure.

The simple fact that we think we will fail becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. It is a sure way to program yourself to fail. Because we already believe we aren’t good at certain things, our subconscious will sabotage any attempts at success, so that our belief stays intact. Unless we can consciously change these deeply held beliefs, we are programming ourselves to fail over and over.

If you want to program yourself to succeed, you need to consciously work every day to change your beliefs about yourself and your abilities. Otherwise, the familiarity of failure is easier on our psyche. Sounds crazy, right? But it is true.

As humans, we are creatures of habit. We will always go back to what is familiar, even if it doesn’t necessarily feel good. We retreat back into the familiarity of failure. That is why we will continue to get into relationships that aren’t good for us, eat food that doesn’t nourish our bodies, retreat into procrastination that damages our careers, or spend money that we don’t have. For those of us with subconscious beliefs that we do not deserve happiness or success, self-sabotage becomes a daily habit. We retreat into self sabotaging habits the minute we start to feel too successful, allowing us to play the victim and stay stuck in a loop of hurtful habits.

In order to change the narrative and program yourself for greater success and fulfillment, you have to change you. We can choose to stop feeling stuck and make the conscious effort to believe we deserve success. It is only once you actively change your thinking that you will find a new pathway to success.

Today, you have to make the choice for yourself. Are you going to stop reacting and retreating into failure or will you choose to program yourself for success?

One Moment Can Change Your Life

One Moment Can Change Your Life

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You know how sometimes the answers are right in front of you? We tend to spend our whole lives looking outside ourselves for the answers when we already have them. Knowing how to breakthrough the noise and clutter can seem difficult or daunting at times. Never feeling like you’re enough. Never smart enough, pretty enough, rich enough? Did you ever ask yourself where all the static came from? Who created the rules that led my life? How did I get here? What does it really take to be happy?

All important questions, but too seldom asked. Instead we choose to play an old tape made years ago that has lost it’s luster. Or reference a map for your answers to how to get somewhere but it was made so long ago that it’s missing all the new roads, highways, turnpikes, freeways, tunnels and ferries. We no longer use typewriters, record players or cassettes.  They are old, worn out, over used and need to retire. They are obsolete and need to be replaced with more updated models.  Time to create a new story, a new direction on a more updated model with your truth. I remember growing up believing in the tooth fairy. Did you? Well it was years later when I learned it was my mom and dad. What about the Easter Bunny or Santa Clause? Who made them up? If they lied about that, what else did they lie about?

It has been said that 55% of our beliefs are formed by the time we are five years old by our parents, guardians, grandparents telling us how we should feel, what we should do, what to believe in, what’s right or wrong. Reminds me of the Pygmalion effect wanting everyone to be like you. Fortunately, we were all made from a unique mold. There is only one you. You were just taught to be like someone you weren’t. Know whatever fears, limiting beliefs your parents had, became yours. You didn’t just try them on, in a lot of cases you may now own them.

I grew up believing what I was told. Children are to be seen and not heard. Listen to your elders. Any of those ring a bell? Growing up I wasn’t always called the nicest things. As a matter of fact the nicknames my father had for me were quite awful. I wasn’t called princess or pumpkin but “Asshole”. Imagine what my childhood was like. We were out at a movie theater watching The Longest Yard with Burt Reynold’s and there was a scene in the movie where they said, “You are all assholes.” My dad without missing a beat screams out in the theater, “see Lisa, they are calling you.” Humiliating! It didn’t stop there… there are tons more.  I was told I had “turnsta disease” anything I touched turned to shit.  I hope I am not offending you here, but imagine being a young precious little girl hearing this stuff all the time. Situations in my life over the years felt like self-fulling prophecies. I was taken advantage of on a date. Took abuse that no one should ever endure. A sudden heart attack at the age of eighteen. Stressed and on medications at a young age. How would you feel about yourself? What would you believe?

God doesn’t make junk and I wanted to believe that I wasn’t, but circumstances lead me on a journey that offered me more reasons to believe I was. Suffice it to say I spent thirteen years trying to kill myself with an eating disorder. Countless hospitalizations, therapy, OA, AB, SA, self help programs using a myriads of ways to sabotage myself which included using food as a coping mechanism, then spending, then work. I found anything and everything to escape what I could not leave. ME! But who am I?

A question I never asked myself? As a matter of fact, I took on an identity that was given to me, that was never who I was. Never knowing how to ask better questions, to listen but not hear, to see and not believe. I believe everyone does the best they can with what they know. Too often we just don’t know. I know now.

One moment changed my life forever. I made a DECISION. I put an end to any other option and decided I wanted more. More love, happiness, kindness,  peace, joy, relationships and money. The how came after the decision. I learned the mindset that lead me to the strategy and then the skill-set. I found the right coaches and mentors to guide me. That was twenty years ago. Today I am living my truth. I am enough. I have even more than I could have ever dreamed.

You see I was always FAB (Fabulous, Awesome, Beautiful) but somewhere I was lead me to believe I was F.I.N.E. (F’d Up, Insecure, Neurotic & Emotional). Today I refuse to be F.I.N.E! I am FAB and so are you! You are already Perfect! What ever stories you were told or tell yourself must stop. They are not true. God doesn’t make junk. You are already FAB!

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Feel Free to Feel

Feel Free to Feel!

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Just for the moment sit with it. Sit with whatever feelings are coming your way. Do nothing! Nothing more than feel them. It is that which we think will kill us that only makes us stronger. Let yourself be Feel FREE to Feel!

How often I can remember doing anything not to feel something. I would find myself in the kitchen opening up all the cabinets, followed by the refrigerator. I would start pulling out food even when I wasn’t hungry just to stuff the feelings that were coming up. Never knowing what it all meant, or why I was doing it. I spent years doing destructive things to myself. Back then they didn’t have names for them all, today is so common. Everything was a secret. Today I believe secrets kill. They kill the person holding them.  Before long thirteen years had passed and hundreds of thousands of calories were consumed through binge eating, compulsive overeating and eventually eliminated through purging. A vicious cycle that I thought was perpetuated by a lack of will power only to learn it was a fear of feeling. Will power had nothing to do with it. I experienced plenty of that in other areas of my life, just not around food.  I found food was my substance of choice. What about you? What do you use to stuff your feelings? Are you free to feel?

When food was no longer the focus I conveniently found other culprits to fill the void. Stinkin thinking was one that played a big part in the whole game. I later turned to other activities to distract me from feeling. I see people today using social media, facebook, twitter, foursquare, Instagram etc and have more of a relationship with their smart phones than they do themselves and others. What are we all running away from?

Want to know the secret to stopping the insanity that keeps you from feeling? The answer is quite easy. Are you ready for it?  Listen because I do not want you to miss it.

Allow yourself to FEEL!

Yes, that’s it. Feel! Do nothing but sit with it. Observe how it makes you feel and understand it will pass. It is our impulse that makes us run and flee as we did back in the caveman days when we were being chased by tigers. You are safe. Breathe! Sit with your feelings and give yourself permission to experience whatever it is you sense at that moment. Become aware of you for the first time and watch all the anxiety, fear and frustration fall away with the pain that you are holding on to.

Know that when we live in the present we have gifts. When we live in our heads we are dead. Choose to live now! FEEL Free!

Love & Gratitude,

Lisa

Date With Destiny - It's Not Where I Left It!

Date With Destiny – It’s Not Where I Left It!

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It was 1am and I am leaving the first day of Leadership Training where we were preparing for Date with Destiny (DWD) with Tony Robbins. It was going to be a huge event we were expecting over 2,200 people from all over the world. So much has led up to this day getting here. As I have served for countless years, this was my first Date with Destiny as Senior Leader without my Handsome (Yardley). I had loads of uncertainty around it all, a place that I do not exist in very often. One challenge after another presented itself and moment by moment, one at a time I dealt with them. Before long I had stacked so many I could no longer shrug them off. That evening, or should I say morning, I left the facility to go back to my hotel. (Let me note, it was also the first time I wasn’t staying at the host because I had made my reservations late). As I entered the parking lot my car was no where to be found. Where is it? It’s not where I left it – my car is missing!

I continued walking with conviction that I knew where I left it but it was not in sight. Trying to recall what kind of car I rented, all I knew was that is was silver. The details are usually left to Handsome. I then begin second guessing myself. Maybe I was tired and didn’t leave it where I thought I left it. I continue to walk through the parking lot looking for it. Still no where to be seen, I start getting a little nervous, I then decide to start pressing the buttons on the key to see if any cars lights up as I hit the door opener. Still nothing. I move forward and finally see a glimpse of something flashing. Could that me my rental car? But wait, how did it get there? I knew I had parked much closer to the entrance. It was parked angled crossing over two spots. I would have never left the car that way. I cautiously approach it and it appears to be alright, so I decide to get in. The seat was in the same position I left it. That would be a tight squeeze for most people. How did it get there?

I share the story with my husband on the phone while this whole thing was happening and he reassures me I probably just didn’t remember where I left it. I then drive to my hotel to get some rest, still pondering over how my car was moved. I was convinced I knew where I left it. The night was still early there was more to come. I get to my hotel and the key doesn’t work to get into the gated area. I am now feeling unsafe and scared, it is dark, late and I am alone, unprotected. What else can go wrong? I have Handsome stay on the phone with me until I am safely in my room. Wooh! A sigh a relief!

The morning comes quickly and I make my way back to the host hotel, but before I do I look around at the beautiful grounds of where I was staying. The gardens are well groomed and the people are friendly. Looks very different than it did the night before in the light of day. I get to the host but this time taking a moment to observe where I parked. As I walked toward the building I saw 3 men that were working on the grounds. I approach them with, “I have a weird question for you, but did anyone move any cars here last night?” They look at me and smile and said, “As a matter of fact we did, we moved five!” In that very moment I had another sigh of relief, I am not going crazy!!! Yeah! It wasn’t me! I needed to know more so I asked, “How did you move the cars?” They had a hydraulic lift come in and move them. That would explain the seat not being moved and the car not being parked straight.

I share my story with one of the trainers of my feeling unsafe and not being taken care of the prior evening and she points out to me how well I was, as they moved my car and didn’t tow it away so it would be there for me when I got out. The gated community at the other hotel was there to protect me. The light of day changed my perspective as did re-framing the whole story.
My Date with Destiny started before the actual DWD.

How many times do you see things for something it is not?
I am so grateful that I continue to grow everyday.

Love & Gratitude,

Lisa

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Thanksgivukkah -Thanksgiving – Hanukkah – Black Thursday – 3 for 1!

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Thanksgivukkah is a once in a lifetime opportunity where two traditions come together as one. The challenges and benefits of such an occasion makes for some great comedy. Thanksgiving and the first day of Hanukkah both fall on Thursday, November 28th, 2013. So Happy Thanksgivukkah a new holiday name. Based on the calendars this is a once in a lifetime coincidence. One physicist has calculated that, if the Jewish calendar is not revised, Thursday, November 28 will not fall during Chanukah again until the year 79811.

To make things even more interesting the retailers decided they want us to end our meals early and rush to the stores for the limited bargains of things we don’t need. They moved our traditional Black Friday, the day after Thanksgiving where all the sales start for Christmas to Black Thursday. In my normal tradition of asking the question, “What’s good about this?” I came up with several wonderful benefits of such a holiday trifecta of having 3:1.

Benefit of the Trifecta

1. We have so much more to be grateful for. Thanksgiving is all about being thankful for what we have and coming together to share it with friends, family and loved ones. It makes it even more special and an opportunity to leverage our time together.

2. Saves you time and money. You get to save on gas, the expense of two meals and you only need to venture out to friends and family once instead of twice this year.

3. Less dishes to cook and clean. You get to combine two cooking holidays in one. That means you only have to prepare once for two occasions. For some this means cooking every traditional dish on one day. For others it means just making different choices of what will be on the menu.

4. You’ll lose weight. Yeah! You will not be repeating the feast and tradition of overeating, but once this year.

5. Company will leave early. No need to concern yourself with the guests that never leave the deals are too good and they must take advantage of them.

A unique situation for sure. Once in a lifetime.

Funny as it may seem as I watch the frenzy of those around me I feel like a spectator at a sporting event. I choose not to participate in any of the insanity or commercialism that has been put in front of us. You get to choose too. My husband, Yardley and I celebrate the holidays every day. Everyday is Christmas, Chanukah and Thanksgiving. We decided over ten years ago not to wait for a holiday or special occasion to express our love for one another. We give gifts all year if we choose to and holidays are no longer once a year.

Happy Thanksgivukkah & Black Thursday to you and yours!

Love & Gratitude,

Lisa

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Move Forward or Die

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In life, if we are lucky, we continue to grow everyday in every way. For the past few days I was not taking my own advice and I felt like I was dying a slow death. I was feeling agitated, frustrated and angry with others reactions and comments to things that I was associated with.  I let people rent space in my head for free and found myself reacting, not responding to everything around me. I become someone that I am not. Have you ever done that? React to a situation and feel as if you became another person?

I know that other person that showed up for a few days. She is no stranger to me. She was the person I once was when I took on other peoples problems as if they were my own.  When I didn’t like myself and I found proof to stay the victim to everything around me. She was filled with tons of self doubt and dis-empowering thoughts finding reason to continually abuse herself. You see, that person doesn’t exist in my life any more today, so you can imagine my surprise when she showed up with guns blaring. It wasn’t me! It was her!

Feeling like a prisoner is something I wanted nothing to do with. I had to figure out how this all happened so I went back to the source and followed the chain of events. My husband had a great idea to serve the masses and I decided to support him to make it a reality. As a matter of fact there were dozens of others that also wanted to become part of something so magical and joined our crusade.  But in every great story there is a villain and ours was no different. Not everyone agreed with what we were doing and how we went about it. So we came upon some challenges and an antagonist in our mission. I couldn’t understand how doing something so good could be seen as bad. This is a reality in all our lives when we set out with good intentions. How we deal with the situation will be the deciding factor in how well we live our lives.

At first I thought I failed. I resorted back to old behaviors and didn’t respond to the situation with the grace and charm I felt I possess inside. My first reaction was “Why?” Knowing that the question would only lead me to a myriad of reasons to support my unfounded therapy and continue to make me feel bad. I needed to ask myself better questions because the ones I was coming up with were not giving me great answers. I re-framed the question and asked myself “what’s really bothering me?”  When I examined all the evidence I realized it came down to wanting everyone to be happy. Why wouldn’t everyone be happy with something so wonderful? That was the challenge, I wanted the impossible, to please everyone. It doesn’t exist. We have to do our best and forget the rest. I’ve learned if we come from best intentions it can’t be wrong but I still wanted everyone to be happy. When reality doesn’t meet expectations we have conflict and I did.

Spending days reacting to the situation I felt like I fell into an abyss of frustration and despair. I couldn’t see the light and began my old pattern of “all or nothing”.  It wasn’t until I resorted to my favorite question that I began to see the light, “Compared to what?” When I asked myself this question it was as if the pearly gates had opened and gave me the answers. What was I getting upset about? How bad is it really? Compared to what? The answers began to flood in like a tidal wave and washed all the despair away.

We’ve heard the expression, it’s darkest before the dawn. Well asking the wrong questions of ourselves is the darkness and asking the right ones is the dawn. It is not where you have been, but where you are going that is important. Do your best to always be moving forward and celebrate every step you take along the way.  I am grateful that I, Lisa Dawn Lieberman-Wang am experiencing the dawn once again.

A Smile Can Make You Happy

A Smile Can Make You Happy

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I asked my husband what he thought was my best feature the other day. For sure I thought he would say my eyes, because he always compliments me on them, but he surprised me and said it was my smile. It made me think of the years I did not smile and wore my pain on my face. I look around and see so many people the way I felt inside, silently unhappy. It sometimes feels as if I am looking in a mirror and seeing all the pain, shame, frustration, resentment and regret that others are holding on to. The great part is that you can choose to let it all go. It is easy to change and feel great now.  I can already hear the voices of some that will be angry with my statement. Feel the need to hold on to the misery and discomfort and would feel too much remorse letting it go. I hear you, I was there. I had thirteen years vested in being and feeling miserable.

A smile can make you feel happy. Fortunately, I learned that it didn’t need to continue and I deserved better, as did my family and friends around me. I decided to be the light that brightens a room instead of darkens it. I choose to be the one that attracts good in my life versus settling for evil. I made a decision.  It was that easy! Then came the work. I had to practice. It didn’t come naturally. I spent the better part of my life complaining and seeing the glass half empty I needed to learn new tools to fill it up again and I did. Here I would like to share some of them with you.

5 Reasons to Smile


1. A smile will make you feel good. Try to feel sad while you are smiling, it is impossible. Smiling sends a message to your brain that you’re happy. When you are happy endorphins get released that make you feel good. Think of something that makes you smile. Find things to be grateful for and put a smile on your face. If this doesn’t come naturally to you practice and clinch a pen between your teeth to imitate a smile. Do it often enough that is becomes a genuine smile.

2. Smiling is Contagious. It costs nothing but gives much. Someone made millions off putting that on a t-shirt. Just the thought of a smiley face today puts a smile on my face. I love being on vacation in my own home town. I always hear people say after returning from vacation, “the people were friendly there.” That isn’t necessarily true. What normally happens is we let our guard down and begin smiling because we are happy we are away and as a by product you notice what has always been there when you show up with a smile. There have been times I would be ahead of my husband in a crowd and all of a sudden, as we would move against the current, he would see a wave of expression as I would pass. One after another would follow with a smile. It is quite fun really. Your smiling can help make others feel happy too. Try it!

3. Smiling Causes Happiness. The theory goes back to Darwin, who proposed in the 19th century that facial expressions didn’t only reflect emotions, but also caused them. This doesn’t mean that unhappiness will go away but in a state of emotional neutrality, by putting a smile on your face will put you in the right direction of feeling happier. Scientific component that “smiling releases serotonin”. Serotonin acts as a natural anti-depressant, and helps regulate your mood, sleep, and even your learning.

4. Smiling Makes You More Attractive. Can we say “Cheese”. Why do we take pictures and ask everyone to say “Cheese”? It is to put a smile on their face and make them look more attractive and happy. This is also helpful when you are looking to attract an individual. Studies have shown that a smile can increase someone’s willingness to trust by 10%!

5. Smiling Opens Your World to More Possibilities. A smile will help you see the big picture. It will be brighter and lighter and have more opportunities. When we are in a positive state we can see more clearly and more things become possible.

Start today and make a conscious effort to smile! 🙂

I am DOING Confused

I am DOING Confused

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That’s right I am DOING Confused… I am not confused, but doing it. I have spent the better part of 30 years researching why people do what they do. For that matter, why I do what I do, to only learn it is to fill a need. It is really that easy. We all DO things to fill a need and to return to the familiar.  None of us are alone in this since everyone does it. Some do it to the point of destruction and others do it the point of fulfillment. Which are you?

I have had the pleasure of working with unbelievable women over the past few years that are successful in some areas but not with themselves. I was one of those women. On the outside you saw a very successful, self assured individual and on the inside I felt like a fraud. I never felt good enough, smart enough, pretty enough or successful enough.  Never enough!!! So I would return to the familiar and DO things to feel bad for myself. It didn’t matter how great things were going I found a way to sabotage it and turn my attention to what was wrong versus what was right. Did you know their is an army of us out there?  The sad part is we are not just an army in volume but in sheer bruit force that repeatedly hurt ourselves before anyone else ever has a chance. It has to STOP!!! I need YOUR HELP! It starts you YOU!

The next time you hear a friend say something negative about themselves, stop them! That person may be you. Ask “What’s great about you?” You may need to help them with the answer since this isn’t part of their normal behavior. They can give you a list of what’s wrong, but very few can give you a list of what’s right. You may also ask “What are you grateful for?” For some this too may be difficult but you can help them with the obvious, they have two hands, two feet can walk and talk. There are millions that can’t.

Let’s create a RAVING FAN club for our FAB (Fabulous, Awesome, Beautiful) Women out there and stop the hatred that is prevalent mostly within ourselves. Breakthrough whatever is weighing you down because it is causing stress, illness, cancer and we can change it all one person at a time.

Join the movement to help empower women reclaim their peace and power now. You are already F.A.B.! Tell yourself and tell a friend!

Love,

Lisa Lieberman-Wang
America’s FAB Coach

3 Step to Be Your Best YOU Now!

3 Step to Be Your Best YOU Now!

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There is hope for anyone wanting to free themselves from the struggles of fitting in and not feeling good enough. Learning to love yourself for who you are and not for whom you think you should be. Willing to leave the past behind you and not beating yourself up over things that were out of your control at the time. Learning to be grateful and appreciate all that you have now versus waiting to have the perfect life, so you can be happy. Stop comparing yourself to others to fit a mold that does not exist and start to be the Best “You”, You Can Be!

So where do you start?

1. Have a Positive Self Image
• It is good to be helpful, but do not feel the need to do all things for other people. Take care of YOU first!
• Treat yourself kindly by not expecting others to make you feel good about yourself. You are already great!
 • Forgive and Forget and try not to hang on painful memories from the past. It does not serve you to open wounds.
• Avoid focusing on what you cannot do, instead focus on what you can do and the things you can accomplish without expecting the need of approval and recognition from others.  Accept yourself as you are right now.
• Accept imperfections by focusing on what you have gained from the process of doing the best you can instead of focusing on what wasn’t done. It is okay to allow yourself to make mistakes and forgive yourself.
• You will never live and have successes if you have never failed. Go out and make mistakes it means you are living a full life.
 
2. Obtain a Positive Body Image
• Learn to love what you see in the mirror. Start my saying nice things to yourself. It can start with “you have nice eyes”.
• BE a friend to your body, not its enemy. Tell it nice things daily. Thank if for taking care of you.
• Everyday tell yourself what you are grateful for, some days it may be just two hands, two feet etc.
• We all wish to look our best; however, a healthy body is not continuously linked to appearance.
• Healthy lifestyle decisions can also improve your body image.
• Change your body image by changing your approach and your manner on how you think about your body.
• Exercise regularly to boost self-esteem, confidence and energy level. Don’t exercise to fight your body but do it to make your body healthy and strong.
• Getting plenty of rest, it is vital to manage stress and anxiety.
• Make a list of all the things your body lets you do and read it often.
• Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired learn to H.A.L.T. Eat when hungry and take a rest when you’re tired.
 
3. “Take Care of Your Mothers Daughter”
This is best advice I can give you and the wisest woman I have ever met, my grandma, gave it to me. As she watched me kill myself and feel responsible for everything and everyone in my life, she would plead with me and say, “Baby, take care of your mothers’ daughter”.  We are so good at taking care of everyone else, isn’t it time you take care of the most important person in the world, “your mothers daughter!” Wouldn’t you want the best for her? If you said yes, then you have to treat her that way.

It is not in our nature to hurt anyone, yet we make it ok to hurt ourselves. This needs to stop. You are worth so much. You make a difference just being here. You have a purpose, to serve yourself first and the people you touch in your life. 
Start with Positive Self Talk…Your Body Hears Everything You Say So Be Nice To It. You are your body and you have been hearing a lot of abuse over the years!It is time to stop and start taking care of it with tender loving care. Feed it love and acceptance, kindness and praise. Encourage it and nurture it to be your best friend.
Change the stories you tell yourself.  Most of them are not true. Change the tape, put in a new DVD and reprogram your mind for a happy and healthy future. Feed your mind with good thoughts and positive affirmations, feed your body with healthy food choices, not with comfort foods or convenience, you are special, treat yourself.  Take care of your mind, body, and soul.
Do something physical as create some endorphins with movement, they produce not only a reduction in pain sensation but also increased feelings of euphoria, a reduction in appetite, and release of sex hormones.  So get out and do things, take a walk with a family member, friend, or dog, exercise in moderation, dance, play outside with a child, join a club, yoga, pilates, or just get a massage.

 

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